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A three-year-old boy implores his mother for a cupcake, and everyone is up in arms because he argues, interrupts and calls his mother by her first name. Cute, or bad parenting?
Is this little boy a future lawyer, or a future juvenile delinquent? I think it’s unfair to judge a parent-child relationship based on one video… one three-minute snippet of their daily lives. She may have encouraged the argument for the video, which has subsequently garnered a ton of media attention.
However, much is being said about a few things. One — the child calls his mother by her first name. This is a huge no-no in many families. Many feel that it lacks respect when a child calls a parent by her first name. I have never experienced it myself, but in some families, it’s just the way they roll. Also, maybe the little boy was calling her by her first name in an attempt to be more convincing, or he was trying to manipulate her because it sounds funny and cute.
Another issue is the fact that he keeps arguing with her and seems to have the upper hand, even though she repeatedly says that she’s the adult and she’s not going to argue with him any more.
I admit, I found the video annoying and hard to watch. I don’t really care about the first-name business, but the fact that he keeps arguing really grates on my nerves. If she were truly trying to get him to mind her, she’d put the video camera down. That’s why I suspect that she was egging him on a bit.
But no, he doesn’t deserve a spanking — just more guidance, and less opportunity (or encouragement) to keep arguing with her.
Philip Wheeler, a linebacker for the Miami Dolphins, is upset at the reaction his girlfriend’s breastfeeding photo is receiving. The photo shows his girlfriend, a model named Ashley Nicole, pausing standing in her home nursing her little boy. The included caption reads, “Was on the way out the door but then mommy duty called… Everything stops for him! #breastisbest #natureisbeautiful.” She looks gorgeous and it’s really sweet to see her tiny baby at the breast. But as expected, not everyone appreciates maternal photos of innocent beauty like I do.
He spoke to TMZ Sports and wondered why his girlfriend isn’t getting the same love and respect Gisele Bundchen got after she uploaded a similar photo to Instagram recently. He also expressed a wish that everyone would “leave it alone.” I totally heard criticism for Bundchen as well during that time, which of course wasn’t deserved, but most of the media was very positive towards her. Most of the negativity came from random comments, which is what I’m assuming is happening now.
It’s an amazing photo. She appears to be leaving it up and I hope she continues to do so. Unfortunately there are people who feel powerful behind a computer or smartphone and say whatever ridiculous thing that pops in their head. But she seems to be a strong gal and has a supportive partner, so I hope she keeps it up.
A toddler in Ontario, Canada was suspended for three days because she snuck a cheese sandwich into her daycare. Her father says that he had no idea that she had food with her, but her teacher spotted it right away and she was handed a suspension slip for three days. The school has a strict “no outside food” policy to protect workers and children who have food allergies. Is this fair?
The policy is definitely fair. Food allergies are no joke, and I unfortunately have first-hand experience as a parent of kids who need to avoid certain types of food for health reasons. My second son was diagnosed with a peanut allergy when he was 4 years old, and thus our allergy education began. My third child has celiac disease, which isn’t an allergy, but it does require a specific, special diet, and if she strays from it, it can make her really sick. Finally, my fourth child has several food allergies — milk, eggs, peanuts and tree nuts.
Nobody in my family has suffered a severe reaction, but I do carry Epi Pens for the two with allergies, just in case. That’s a situation I never want to find myself in. I’ve noticed that daycares, preschools and regular schools around here haven’t really caught on to the food allergy thing, but epinephrine is now routinely stocked at schools and can be administered in case of emergency here, which is awesome. I’d love it if I had the opportunity to send one of my children with food allergies to a facility that was aware of the dangers of outside food.
However, I feel that an automatic three-day suspension is excessive. Notifying the parent for the first infraction is crucial, but booting the kiddo out of daycare shouldn’t be the first step. A written warning should suffice that indicates that a suspension would take place if it happened again.
Regardless, I’m sure her dad will check her pockets, bag and hands more carefully the next time he drops her off.